Papa and mummy and Newton’s laws governing their relationship

Papa and mummy are the lead anchors of every family across the planet. The beautiful relationship between both of them helps a family to prosper. But daily, this relationship goes through a lot of duress. The blow hot and cold relationship between papa and mummy sometimes makes the kids wonder about the forces controlling their mood. Some relationships are easy to predict but the one between papa and mummy is something that even God can’t predict.

The daughter who is busy with her online classes is a bit surprised to get a request from mom asking to check with dad if he is ready for lunch. The obvious question in her mind is why can’t mummy check with papa directly? She checks with her younger brother if something has gone wrong between papa and mummy. The son gives a big affirmative nod. You don’t know? Papa and mummy had a big showdown this morning. The daughter curses her luck! She was about to take permission from mom about a sleepover at her friend’s house. She knows it’s now impossible to get a go-ahead in a scenario where papa and mummy are on non-talking terms.

So what are the forces in play that ultimately controls the relationship between both of them? I have applied Newton’s law of Physics to understand the relationship between papa and mummy.

The Law of Inertia – Newton’s 1st Law

Newton’s first law is the law of Inertia. It states that if a body is at rest or moving at a constant speed in a straight line, it will remain at rest or in a state of motion unless acted upon by an external force. In other words, a person will remain in a happy mood unless acted upon by outside forces.

If papa has the habit of leaving the bathroom wet after the bath, mummy should leave him alone. She should avoid giving him daily lessons on cleanliness. She should understand that it is because of the law of inertia that papa has not changed his habit even after 20 years of marriage. Or in other words, papa is resistant to change.  On the other hand, if mom keeps surfing on her mobile without paying any attention to what dad is saying then dad should avoid talking to her at that point of time.

When dad forgot to pick mom’s saree from the dry cleaner

Similarly, if dad forgets to pick mom’s saree from the dry cleaner while coming back from the office mom should let him go unpunished without applying an external force. And if mom forgets to make an early dinner for dad as he is on intermittent fasting then dad should try to overlook it.

With no external force to disturb (read spouse) the married life between papa and mummy continues smoothly. These are the days which the kids call the golden days as both mom and dad go out of the way to fulfill their wishes.

Newton’s 2nd Law that sets the tone between papa and mummy

A body when acted upon by an external force will accelerate in the direction of the force though the mass of the body will act against the force. The day peace is broken in the house (and it tends to happen with age) it seems that one of the partners has applied an external force that has broken the inertia of the other partner and made him make a move.

The acceleration of the argument will depend on the force applied (how sarcastic the remark was?) and the mass (the weight of the subject). If papa and mummy are supposed to attend the 50^th-anniversary function of mom’s parents and dad happens to come late from the office despite several reminders then the argument will start in the car. As the car accelerates so does the argument. Being purely dad’s fault the mass of mom’s argument is heavier. Mom then applies a forceful argument against dad saying he always comes out with some silly excuse about office work and spoils the fun of family outing. Dad has no option but to give up and move in a direction in which mom wants like refusing to accept official calls during the anniversary function.

The debate over dinner

On some other days, the force works in the other direction. Dad has on several occasions expressed his disliking for the neighborhood friend Mr. Sharma as he is a big show-off with a tendency to run down others. But mom has accepted a weekend dinner invitation at their place without checking with dad. The law of acceleration sets in a form of an argument that gains momentum with both parties presenting their viewpoint. Dad’s argument that he just can’t stand Mr. Sharma has a heavier mass. On the other hand, mom is quite forceful in establishing the fact that we need to maintain a cordial relationship with our neighbours. Finally, the argument moves in the direction in which mom wants.

The Law of opposite action between papa and mummy – Newton’s 3^rd Law

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.  This law is what kids in the family witness most of the time. There are times when an argument breaks between papa and mummy with equal forces being applied between both the parties. As a result, there is a huge nuclear explosion with dust clouds rising to the sky. Once the dust settles a cold war erupts with both parties refusing to speak to each other. Kids in the family have become expert diplomats trying to resolve the dispute between the two parties at dispute.

Mom’s obsession with maids

The subject of debates often is related to dad’s overindulgence with office or mom’s OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder) with cleanliness or complaints about the maid.  There are times when dad tends to pamper the kids. He presents an iPhone -XI to his daughter on her birthday. Mom is not happy with this gesture. She had promised the same to her daughter if she scores 95% in the Class 12^th boards. Dad should have consulted mom before buying the phone. Dad gets lessons on parenting on how he spoils the kids with no involvement in their grooming. The argument tends to flare up in the evening in the bedroom and the next day a cold war breaks between both of them. Dad’s action has resulted in an equal and opposite reaction from mom.

There are times when there is an action from mom’s side that results in an opposite reaction from dad’s side. The topic is a very sensitive subject and I would not like to elaborate much. The subject is related to mom-in-law.  Which mom-in-law? Well, I am leaving it to you to judge!

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