Remembering a wife’s birthday is a challenging job for a husband

October 2nd is Gandhi Jayanti. It’s a date that the entire nation including all husbands remembers very well. But ask any husband about their wife’s birthday and I am sure that 50% will fail the test. Wives fail to understand  why their husbands who otherwise are good at remembering dates tend to forget their birthdays. Is it done on purpose or is it in their genes? If the husband tends to forget his wife’s birthday for two consecutive years, then the wife gets suspicious. Is her husband suffering from dementia?

Wives are surprised at the changed personality of the husband. During the courtship period, the husband not only remembered his would-be wife’s birthday but would call her parents on their birthdays and wish them. He was good at remembering dates from Valentine’s to birthdays and other special occasions. So much that the girlfriend would cross-check with him about the college exam dates.

The big question in a wife’s mind is whether her husband is losing his sharpness or is he pretending? The husband never forgets the date and time when it comes to office meetings with the boss. On the other hand, he gets ready early in the morning for the zoom meeting. The wife is baffled!  Does he do it on purpose or he genuinely forgets the wife’s birthday?

The wife draws several conclusions on why her husband forgets her birthdays.

The choice of gift for a wife’s birthday

The first reason that comes to a wife’s mind is that her husband will have to buy a gift that will live up to her expectations. She is quite perplexed on why her husband has inhibitions in buying a gift for her? They have spent so many years together and he knows her likes and dislikes. Her canvas of interest is so wide that it will be easier for anybody to select a gift for her. She has an interest in western and Indian dresses. She likes wearing sarees on special occasions and at the same time is comfortable with western dresses while going out for parties. Cosmetics, Stilettos, Lady’s handbags, Perfumes, iPhone; the choices are humungous and the husband can pick a gift from any of the categories.

On the other hand, the husband is under duress for the last couple of weeks. He still has not been able to figure out the gift for her wife’s birthday. The reason behind his indecisiveness is that for the last three years in a row his gift has not been appreciated much by his wife. A handbag got rejected because the colour was too dull, a watch had to be changed as the dial was not matching with the wardrobe collection. And last birthday a silk saree was accepted with a bit of reluctance as the wife prefers cotton over silk.

Financial constraint

There are times when a husband fails to read the early warning signals emerging from a wife’s antennae. Wives are one of the most understanding species on earth. When the quantum of gift desired by a wife has a huge financial implication, she gives an early warning signal to her husband so that he can plan his finances accordingly. The gifts range from a Tanishq jewelry set, a weeks’ vacation to the Maldives, an Omega watch, and so on.

Husbands have a sensitive radar and are good at picking signals. The moment they decode the signal and realise that the gift desired by their wife has a huge financial implication they tend to ignore the signal. To avoid the wrath of the opposite party they pretend to be a victim of dementia. They understand the risk of ignoring such a powerful signal and try addressing the problem with a simple solution of a “sorry” + a bouquet of white lilies.

A tit-for-tat game when it comes to buying a gift for a wife’s birthday?

Just a couple of months back the husband celebrated his 45^th birthday. In a role reversal, the wife became a victim of dementia and forgot her husband’s birthday. It was only when the kids called from their hostel wishing dad a happy birthday, she realised her folly. She did her best to make up for the mistake by making her husband’s favourite aloo-poori and rice kheer but maybe it was too late. The husband though was not much bothered about it.

So, this birthday when the husband forgot to wish on her birthday, the wife thought that the husband is playing a tit-for-tat game. The husband on the other hand, had no such intention to forget the date. He missed  remembering the date as his mind was preoccupied with an important office meeting.

The husband is appreciated for his choice of gift by colleagues

It was a farewell party for the boss who was leaving the company after 15 years. She had a fairly successful tenure at the company. The husband was a part of the farewell team. He was invited with spouse for a sit-down dinner at a happening restaurant. The entire team was present at the gathering. After a brief speech, the team presented the farewell gift to the boss. She appreciated the gesture and liked the gift very much enquiring about who selected the gift?

The wife got a shocker when the entire team said that her husband was the one who selected the beige-coloured Michael Kors handbag for the boss. A lot of female colleagues told the wife that whenever they go out for shopping trips at international conferences, they ask her husband to accompany them as he has great taste. This was like a nail in the coffin. How come the husband fails to live up to such a high standard when it comes to selecting a gift for the wife’s birthday?

The other woman

The wife in the end was relaxed! If the husband has been forgetting her birthday regularly then it means that he is a typical Indian husband who has no other woman in her life. If there was one then the husband would have made it a point to remember her birthday and pamper her with expensive gifts to avoid the needle of suspicion.

Incidentally it’s my wife’s birthday this weekend and I remember it very well. Do you?

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